This year, I will not tolerate or entertain advances from men who are in any way attached to another woman (mama’s boys accepted). No husbands. No boyfriends. No fiancés. No estranged spouses. No almost boyfriends/complicated relationships. And possibly no recent divorcees. I don’t know if I can stick to that last one, but the rest of those titles are big red flags for 2011.
The hardest part about keeping this resolution will be the fact that none of the men I’ve ever dated who held any of the above titles (husband, boyfriend, fiancé, estranged spouse, almost boyfriend, ex-husband) have EVER offered this information up front. Thus, keeping this resolution means (1) keeping a bit of skepticism in mind every time I meet someone new or even grow closer to someone old, and (2) taking my time and using my resources to collect the information I truly need/want to have. Let’s see how this goes!